As 2014 is over halfway through hah. Im finally going to introduce Firefly, our third daughter! She was born on a Saturday in June and as of now is our heaviest child! Our other two were 6lbs 10-11oz.. Firefly.. she came in at 7lbs 15oz! She is such a blessing though and already at 3 months old she is showing her personality. My parents were in town for her birth and were able to have the other two spend the night in their hotel while we were in the hospital. Oh how blessed we are with family and friends! Older sisters Solo, and Lioness, are so amazing with Firefly. They love on her, want to hold her, want to bring me diapers, want to touch her, talk to her, sing to her. Our family dynamic is so different but so much the same. I always knew I wanted to have a big family and right now where we are in our lives we know we want a fourth child. My main concern with that decision is this ----- People---------
yes. People. You know the ones Im talking about. The ones that think they should be in your family discussions about how large your family can be. The ones that look down on you for having a child in a carseat, a child on your hip, and another walking beside you. Yes I have my hands full.. no I dont need you to stare at me and say it. So many times it seems that I hear women, pregnant with their fourth, fifth or sometimes even just their third child, talking about how down they are because no one seems happy for them, only spouting off "oh wow.. another one?" When did my husband and I have to run it by you about how many children we want or end up having? Can it be you believe we are not fit to be parents? Or maybe you think I dont work and stay at home so we MUST be poor and cant afford them?
My answer to you who do these things is this. BUTT OUT. How many children my husband and I decide to have is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! How about offering to help distract a fussy child at the store instead of commenting on how "full" my hands are? Im still going to be shopping no matter how upset my toddler gets at me for not giving her that ice cream right now or how loud my grade schooler is whining about not being able to get the super sugary cereal she wants. How about you keep your opinion to yourself and ask yourself how blessed my life must be to have so many tiny humans that love to see me everyday.. to want to talk to me everyday.. to want me to be with them.. to want me to listen to every little details of their days because they know I care.. THIS is what I do. THIS is why I am ok having as many children as we have. These tiny humans show me what life is worth and how incredibly magnificent it is!